so, how do you make friends?

can you actually say that you remember learning to walk or tying your shoes...or count to ten or write your letters...it just seems like something i have always known...and yet i know i had to learn it some where...hell, i don't even really remember learning to ride my bike or blow bubble gum and the only time i have to contemplate how that works is when i am trying to explain to someone else how to do it...breaking down the steps and explaining it one by one...it is not always that easy...some times its so automatic that you forget the "how" part and i think that can hurt your kids.
my little brother tells a story about learning to ride his bike...he was the youngest of four and by the time he came along my parents were getting tired of parenting on some levels and he was left to fend for himself or some times i think they figured one of us other three would teach him things for them...any way, he had finally done it...taught himself to ride his bike except he didn't know how to use the breaks and he came flying in the carport and slammed into the fench and racked his nuts...he still gets pissed telling that story because he feels like if my mother had been out there helping him that wouldn't have happened to him and he would have gotten the instruction he needed about how the breaking worked.
this being said, i had a huge discussion last night with my wee one about making friends...she has had a rough year at school and has not had any friends...if you ask her no one likes her and no one wants to play with her and she is gonna have to go through life without friends forever. it makes her so sad and i keep trying to think of ways for her to make friends...and then i start thinking how did i make friends and i can't for the life of me remember...i was always super shy but, i always managed a few good friends in each grade level...i think...or at least that's the way i remember it

but, honestly i can't remember how i made friends..."you have to be a friend to have a friend" or "you can't be bossy and you have to share" or "you have to be nice" or "don't always try to take charge"...well, my wee one already is all that and yet she still can't seem to make friends...maybe she's a bit naive and wants friends too bad and gets her feelings hurt really easy and is a total follower...plus she's super book smart but, she thinks all kids are inherently nice...and we all know that is totally not true...kids are evil, mean little shits and people like to put others down to make themselves feel better...and grown ups can be evil, mean big shits...so, i hate to tell her that things don't really change that much

i'm at my wits end...i am going to sign her up for summer camp and maybe i can find a church-sunday school she might like or she has been wanting to go take karate...maybe she can make just one friend...anybody remember how to make friends?