dating
so i went to research some articles about finding single people
1. 10 best places to meet a man or woman: newlyweds and experts say lightning can strike anywhere
2. cosmopolitan's: the best places to meet a guy
3. top ten best places to meet single men or women
4. top 10: new places to meet women
so what do all the experts say????
- the gym/health club/the ymca/taking some kind of work-out class at the gym/yoga class
- church
- through friends/family members
- through the internet/meetup.com groups/social networking sites
- at a bar/sports bar
- work
- social/community organizations/conferences/conventions/organized events/lectures/political event
- supermarket/coffee shop/apple store/bookstore
- weddings
- college/library/dog parks/art crawls
- public transportation/airplane flights/laundromats
- dance classes/wine tasting/volunteering/painting class/cooking class
so basically that is every where...an yet you don't meet that many people...what's the problem?
let's look a bit deeper...
okay, the gym...i don't know that i want to meet people at the gym...if i actually get myself to go to the gym then i am going for the work out and being all red-faced and sweaty is not my ideal time to meet someone spectacular...plus i really am there to try to get in better shape and if you see me all like that then...i don't know...you should leave something to the mystery of being with someone
church...don't frequent one
through friends/family...uhhhh...how do you say no without hurting any one's feelings...i actually had a friend tell me that she met someone semi-annoying and a bit on the cocky side but, oh, they'd be perfect for me since she didn't want them...then she said that she met this older person who she didn't want either but that thought i might not mind...since the age-thing isn't a problem for me...and don't get me started on my family...except for my little brother no one else would know me well enough to pick out a date for me
internet dating...anyone including serial killers, sadists, and weirdos can make themselves look appealing in print and upload any picture of "themselves"...people aren't even honest face-to-face anymore these days why would you expect honesty online???
bars are too loud to talk and people are usually too drunk to care...don't think this is a good one...plus you are a different person drunk/sober and what if the differences are so extreme that you just aren't that appealing to me any more...or vice versa...not wasting my time on this one...and i don't think oh, wait i only know one couple past or present that has met at a bar and they haven't been together that long...so, we'll see if that lasts
work...you spent a lot of time there so it would mean that geographically speaking, you would have a chance of a romance but, you are supposed to be working and really how many people do you meet...plus you see these people in and out everyday...exnay on the mysteryway...i have worked at a lot of kitchens/restaurants and met many customers/workers that i would never think of dating or even asking out in a million years
i don't know if i want to fork out money for an event or a convention or a conference just to meet someone and i certainly don't want to to to any of those unless i am actually interested in them...i am not gonna fake it...so if i go to any of these and i actually meet some one then it would be a star aligning sort of thing because i would actually be going for the event not the hypothetical meeting of someone new
bookstores...coffeshops...grocery market...apple store....i am usually drinking coffee, looking for books or magazines, reading, shopping for groceries, or searching for my latest ipod fix....plus how many people have you seen in these places hooked up to their laptops and blackberries or iphones...it's a maybe
weddings...when is the last wedding you went to and if you are into that wedding crasher thing...good for you but, i haven't been to a wedding for at least six years...not a frequent thing i do
college...been there done that [did fall in love but, hasn't worked out]...dog park...don't have a dog....art crawl...i am usually looking at the art and people seem to go in packs to these things....library...it's too quiet of a place to actually strike up a conversation...
i have not ever seen someone on my bus or at the laundromat i frequent that i would remotely [as in, last person on the earth...]be interested in...
maybe i should volunteer or take a class...i haven't tried this one
so, do i sound too much like a pessimist??? i am not trying to shoot everything down but...really a laundromat???? so, possibly church if i was a church-going type, possibly as a volunteer or taking a class, possibly if the stars aligned at a conference or convention type thing, possibly work, and college worked but, i am not going back there unless i can't find a job and then grad school would be taking up all my time so, dating would be out anyway. it can't be that bleak or hard to find a date...maybe i will be a self-full filling prophecy and say i can't so many times i never will...okay, maybe i should think positive...okay, i will give this idea more thought and write again on it.
if anyone has any other suggestions of where to meet people or where you have met people...leave me a comment
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